She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

Unfortunately we got a little heated with one another yesterday and in the end agreed to get a D.

I took the daughters out boating Sunday and my D15 hit hear head wakeboarding causing me to take her to the doctors Monday morning. I called her as soon as I knew we were going to the doctors. However, she came down on me for not letting her know that she fell initially.

Memorial day weekend she came down on me hard for me getting hurt while I was boating with the kids. When we had MC she brought it up, and the MC told her she seemed to be controlling. In light of her coming down on mw I chose not to tell her my D15 had fallen because it wasn't anything serious.

I wasn't trying to withhold anything from her, just trying to avoid conflict. Looking back on it I should have let her know and not worried about how she reacted. i have appologized for not letting her know that she had gotten hurt.

It was my weekend at the house with the girls. She text me and said she was at home with D15 and that she would pick up D4. She also said that there was no need for me to come by the house. I pick up my D4 from daycare everyday and take her home. On top of that all my stuff was still over there that I neede to pick up.

we also had a meeting scheduled to discuss how we were going to split the finances. i called and told her I was coming over. She asked me not to because we were both angry. If I didn't have clothes over there I wouldn't have gone over.

Anyway I went over to the house. She put down the budget spreadsheet and i told her lets finalize this. in her mind we were finalizing the divorce not the bill split, so the entire conversation turned to D. We pretty much agreed to D while she cried the entire time.

We talked again later that evening, and I really don't know where we stand. She said she doesn't know if it's her not putting her gaurd down to let mein or if tit's my resentment of her asking for a D that's holding us back. i believe it's a combination of the two.

I let her know that my desire was still to rebuild and that i 100% preferred to not get a D. However, if she could say with 100% certainty that she wants a D then I will go down that path with her.

I know we stil have time on our side, and i hope we don't let one incident like this take away what we've been working to improve. I will still continue to move forward with my life. part of me feels that the only way she'll ever come around is if we actually proceed with the D.

This entire process has too dang many ups and downs. No one ever said it would be easy, but D is absolutely not the answer.