Well, that script helps put things into perspective. This has been a real eye opener for me and I want to thank all of you for the great words of wisdom.
I've decided to let her go. If OM is what she wants then so be it. I have found peace in all of this and it's brought my son and I closer together. I'm starting to GAL and it feels good. 3 months of heartache and pain, but I'm finally starting to feel normal.
I know I have a long way to go and hopefully my therapy will help me be a better person for any future R.
Don't be surprised, though, if, when you give her the above message, she starts back pedaling and swearing how much she really wants the M, doesn't want OM, please don't do this, etc... Do NOT back off of your message. Do not allow her to fix ANYTHING with her words. You tell her you will talk about it later and you'll let her know when. Then go to bed or go out or something, but pull yourself away from her. Leave her there to struggle with what you've told her.
Or...she may just go totally off on you, DENY DENY DENY and make you out to be the world's biggest a$$. That's ok, too. Do not argue with her or try to convince her of anything. You KNOW what you KNOW, and your message has been delivered. Then go to bed or go out or something, but pull yourself away from her. Leave her there to struggle with what you've told her.
And of course, either way ~~~ FFH is A-OK.
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