Heartbroken and needing help!

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I-IMO, you handled your S well. I am sure this will not be the last talk you have with him. Just remember to listen and be the rock for him. He,you all, will be ok.

S and I have done some crying and talking / I am heartbroken.
Made it through work today - took care of the house - cut the grass and cried the whole time. I have kept tears inside for months - trying not to agitate him in any way - trying to keep the secrets. Now the tears just flow.

This is actually a good thing, the crying. Don't be surprised if it is followed with anger and more crying. We have to feel our feelings in order to process them.

My IC said today though that all he wants is divorce and he won't stop until he gets it.

Can I get the winning lottery numbers please?

Listen, people will sometimes give you their opinions, but you know what those are really worth. Although this may be your IC's experience, please don't let it get in your head and make you crazy. It is simply an opinion.

Have you read "The Secret" or the "Law of Attraction", they are good books that expound on the idea that thoughts become things. So if we project negativity, we attract negative things towards us, and if we project positive things, we attract positive things toward us.

I am sorry that this happened, however I am glad that you stuck to your boundary, that is really important.

Right now, I see this as a time for you both to feel what you need to feel and maybe honestly begin the healing process.

Where that process takes you, has not been determined yet.