You know what, thats exactly what I was thinking.. that he may always have been charming/a bit flirty but also, business like with PA's/Marketing/Advertisers, but you just didnt know becuase you were never checking his work emails before, or paying as much attention then. And whilst for all of your marriage, bar ow, it was innocuous, maybe this is also.
And I am glad you are working on your confidence because you arent the second choice, even if you feel as though you are. In fact, you never were. I never did buy this "second prize" stuff that some cynics would post, because in fact, he never wanted to D you, he never cut ties with you, he never went public at all with ow and he never stopped loving you. Have you asked him that? I asked bf and he insists now that he never stopped loving me all along, looking back, despite sitting me down and giving me the IDLYA speech!
He may have left and had an R with ow..but its only when you have had time, months or years even to look back and reflect on things you have said/done in your life that you realise how you really felt. So, no, you were never really second best although its understandable that you would feel that you were.
I am calling you later !! Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread