On FB I've hidden everyone closely connected to my H to avoid them coming up on news feed... otherwise it was too difficult for me. If someone wanted to contact me there is always messages and emails. what's been really difficult is that one minute I was 'family' and the next it was as if I've disappeared from the face of the earth.
If I'm doing a bit better than you in detaching, it's probably bc my M was a living hell before separating. We didn't do anything together and H complained and blamed everything but did nothing almost. The more I did, the more he expected and his expectation grew like snow balls. If I couldn't give it he'd scream respect. So by the time we were apart I was relieved. If it wasn't marriage I would have gone a long time ago! I'm really questioning myself if it's worth it to be with him, he used to yell and tell me he doesn't want to change. (can you believe he thought of himself as always calm and fair?)
Re: goal setting A while ago someone on TV was saying 'if you want to achieve something rather big, then you set a time limit and break it down to months, weeks and days. You will know what you need to do tomorrow. Otherwise it's too daunting when you only see the goal'
There is something I always wanted to do, which was quite difficult when I was with H. So this is a good time and opportunity for me to work on it bit by bit.
