My stand is....as long as H is involved w/ OW, I will not be a part of his life. He is bothered that I take care of things by myself and do not appear to need him. Oh Well. Making him feel good while he is carrying on is not an obligation or desire of mine.
The conditions to re-enter my life are no OW, complete transparency, and counseling. Otherwise he is on his own and must find another way to meet his needs. I won't meet those he is not getting w/ OW.
So, that is how I am handling it. I have been advised to stay dim until he wants to agree to these conditions. I now have a canned response when H comes sniffing around...."You know where I stand." and/or "The door is open, but I am not standing in the doorway waiting."
I hope this helps you in your dilemma somehow.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
