shocked one you are right, i guess I was foolish to think if I asked for shared/joint custody that it would be a possible open door for us to reconcile. She needs so much help at this point it would take a miracle I believe. I just dont see how a person can punish you this way.

My friend said well it work because she knows you still want her. Though it was wrong to send a message about being done due to NC. I feel that it was also a good way to send a message that she cannot hurt me anymore. She broke no contact and well I have it all documented including her letter about buying a gun etc..

Yes itll look like we both were immature in court if any of this is presented, but who knows last time I called her mom it was not even considered presentable.

We will see this time. Yes I will go for full custody and accept my responsibility for my DD1 because she does not deserve to be in her life in her current state.

How does one go from being a nice loving mom to this?? I am sure that alot of it has to due with her not having DD1 as she said she had free time on her hands, but this is just out of control behavior.

I think she may need a full psychiatric evaluation.


M 36
W 29
Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months
Daughter 15 months
Bomb 4/22/10
Separated since 4/25/10
OM 6/10/10
Hopeful, but moving on