Well more madness from WAW, on her Facebook page she put she was in a relationship with Fake-like Profile (William E Kurtz) of Apocalypse now, and that profile has 3 friends 2 guy friends on it.
She is making a mockery of me because she knew I was looking at her page (stalking it) whatever that means. Yea I admit i looked at it, but its not completely blocked out like it once was. She also had added every EX-Boyfriend that i had known of another tactic to dig a dagger in my heart Im sure.
Also, still no D papers and I am thinking she cannot afford to file, but I wait for them to come still.
Im starting to detach more, but I just cannot understand why she is doing this. It must be that I told CPS about her threats against my other kid if I filed for FULL CUSTODY, or maybe busting the affair I dont know.
I was hoping some of that would wake her up, but she still seems to think this some kind of oneupsmanship war drama. I hate feeling like this, and I hate to think of DD1 being caught in the middle. WAW was never this evil in the past and now she is at a all time low I fear.
Court is July 15th and now I am thinking she may pull another stunt by bringing a man to the proceedings. What could make someone so vengeful, I just dont know how to handle my nerves in all this. I guess I have to Block facebook, and really try to detach from all this because my nerves are very very razzled.
Another bad thing, a local place where I would hang sometimes and she also, she has friended some of the help on facebook and I fear my reputation is being smeared there as well.
I have said some bad things about her, but I know she is doing the same to me. I just want PEACE in all this, and I have no freakin clue how to ask for it, or for it to begin.
I wish I did not care for her like I do, nor had I ever gotten the police or my family involved as it seems it just keeps escalating worse with stupid Facebook attacks and stuff like that.
I will start going to a church divorce support group on Sundays, and maybe I need al-anon as well, because it could be possible im stuck in rescuer mode with her.
I love DD1, but ill be honest I have fears about WAW and her being civil and not getting help or having some revolving door of boyfriends in and out of DD1s life. She really has reverted to her past of a single carefree woman and I worry hard about that.
The religion is a joke to her, because I just dont see how someone who is a christian can do the things she is doing?
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Another bad thing, a local place where I would hang sometimes and she also, she has friended some of the help on facebook and I fear my reputation is being smeared there as well.
Those who mind don't matter, those who matter don't mind. Do you really need friends who would fall into a story of slander? Anyone with half a brain can tell someone is just trahing someone. Obviously she is aware she can push your buttons with FB, so get off of there.
Well WAW posted she was in a relationship with someone on FACEBOOK and had some photos of her eating dinner with another man and such... I officially sent a message THAT I AM DONE!!
ITS OVER I AM DONE! I will no longer tolerate this crap, I am moving on, ROBX, GUCCI, you guys are right. I AM DONE!
It was so embarrasing to see this crap on facebook as I know she posted this to P me off. I guarantee it, and has some fool creating a profile to make this happen.
I told her the following in a message -
Listen up until I seen this new profile, I thought there may have been some hope for our marriage. But now I see everything to you is about games, and is not about love but games. I am done with this and I tried to make changes and prove to you that we could maybe have a happy life or friendship.
I am going to go my way, and you go your way. I want to thank you, and i know that sounds strange because of all the pain you brought me, but it has opened my eyes and I have friends surrounding me supporting me and I will do what I feel is right and what my friends and family believe I should do.
Please dont take this the wrong way, but I have no ill feelings but its time I live my life for ME!! Have fun living life in sin and living life for yourself!!!!
Goodbye and I hope you find what it is your seeking.
At the end I included a link to a concert where WAW, Myself, and DD1 had a great time, and said I bid a fond adieu.
I honestly believe that moving on is best now, because how can i let her keep disrespecting me while we are still married.
My plan is to get this last 15 lbs off, where I am at the weight I was when we 1st started dating finish up my changes for me, focus on DD1. She still hasnt filed for D and you know what if she wants it she can pay for it, Ill just move on with my damn life and let her fork over the cash.
I will be ready come court time, and I will FOCUS on getting DD1 full time. She can live her life in sin and do all these crazy things etc... But posting your in a relationship with some freak with Tattoos all over and into BDSM is not the way to go whether the profile is fake or not. I will not keep feeding into this crap, and DETACH like a real man.
Once my changes are made and I get my weight down and Focus on my true talents in life, i wont be suprised if she comes crawling back to me. I am DONE!!!!
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Well WAW posted she was in a relationship with someone on FACEBOOK and had some photos of her eating dinner with another man and such... I officially sent a message THAT I AM DONE!!
Why did you need to send the message? Are you not under a NC court order any longer? Is this not detrimental toward your pursuit of full custody? You need to quit letting your emotions guide you. Take some time to calm down. Come here and do your ranting. Of course she is trying to piss you off, AND, it is working. You need to go pitch black, dark, in a very bad way.
Why did you need to send the message? Are you not under a NC court order any longer? Is this not detrimental toward your pursuit of full custody? You need to quit letting your emotions guide you. Take some time to calm down. Come here and do your ranting. Of course she is trying to piss you off, AND, it is working. You need to go pitch black, dark, in a very bad way.
If he would only listen....
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
She sets you up and you go for it every time. She could very well have done that knowing you would break the NO CONTACT order by the court and she can print your message as proof YOU are the one breaking the no contact order. After all, you told your therapist about the threats she made. This might just have been payback and you fell right into it.
All you can ever do is hurt your own legal situaion with this stuff. Cut her out of your facebook, email lists, block any phone numbers,etc. If you don't, you are going to lose your D.
Get a grip. When you feel like contacting her, call a friend, post here, go for a walk, anything but contacting HER.
Well she broke it by facebook as well, emailing my sister with awful threats etc... Your right detachment is in order. But I tell you I was disgusted and considering she already broke it by calling me, messaging me I dont even know what it matters. We both broke it. I just had to get my message across.
I know your right, but damn i am mad. We are not even divorced and she is doing this crap. It hurts beyond belief.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
Two wrongs don't make a right. I don't know why you keep playing with fire (and that is exactly what you are doing by violating the no contact order).
You can be disgusted and angry in private but contacting your W when a court of law has instructed you NOT to under any circumstance is not in your best interest yet you keep doing it.
All a judge is going to see is two immature people that are using Facebook to play games and disrespect and violate the court orders. Yet you want to somehow get custody? THINK!
So far you *had* to contact your W. You *had* to get your message across. There are VERY few things in life we *have* to do. You might want to but you don't have to.
When you are done you are done. The best way to send that message is just move on and refrain from further discussion. You say you don't want to play games yet you send a message that indicates otherwise.
You say you have no ill feelings and the next line you typed was have fun living in sin. If you truly had no ill feelings her living in sin would not ruffle your feathers a bit.
You are very emotionally reactive and each time you give in to the reactivity you are simply putting one last nail in the coffin when it comes court time. Be smart!
City Girl your right, i had a few drinks tonight, and well man i hit the roof when I seen that. I am just going to detach and be done. I love WAW so much, and just to have stuff like this hit me in the gut hurt me so bad, yes I did fall for it.
I just dont understand it all. Is this normal WAW behaviour or is it going a bit overboard?? I dunno, i have never had a woman be so mean and vindictive. I am going to block facebook and not look at her profile anymore.
I am just so hurt that I listened to a friend who said just be done with it once for all, and that why I sent the message, because I want her to not have any power over me EVER again.
I am there for DD1 and that is what my focus will be from now on. I do appreciate the 2 by 4 and your right, so no more mistakes from here on out. Man I wish i could chat with someone about this because i feel pretty awful right now.
WAW was wearing a bathing suit in the pics and swimming, eating dinner, etc... I just dont know how it could get any worse City girl, she is trying to crucify me.
M 36 W 29 Together 2 1/2 years married 14 months Daughter 15 months Bomb 4/22/10 Separated since 4/25/10 OM 6/10/10 Hopeful, but moving on
