She sets you up and you go for it every time. She could very well have done that knowing you would break the NO CONTACT order by the court and she can print your message as proof YOU are the one breaking the no contact order. After all, you told your therapist about the threats she made. This might just have been payback and you fell right into it.
All you can ever do is hurt your own legal situaion with this stuff. Cut her out of your facebook, email lists, block any phone numbers,etc. If you don't, you are going to lose your D.
Get a grip. When you feel like contacting her, call a friend, post here, go for a walk, anything but contacting HER.