They hear and read what they want to and leave the rest outside the universe.
snodderly, thank you. I am sure this is true and need to remind myself of that. I can't allow myself to be sucked back into all of this. I need to keep moving forward.
On the radio the other day they were talking about OCD and while listening to them talk, I kept thinking there were similarities between OCD and my H's MLC...the main thing that stood out was that OCD is about control but the more they try to control things with their OCD behavior, the more out of control it becomes. Am I off base?
glam-I think the bottom line is that they don't know what they want. At what point do we give up waiting for them to "snap out of it"? I have come to the conclusion in my sitch that my H knowing that I am "waiting" has enabled him to be stuck. Why should he want to change anything if he has what he considers to be the best of both worlds?
peace-As long as I don't let myself get sucked back in, I am ready to move on. I am fighting to keep moving forward and today I was tempted several times to pick up the phone and ask him why we are doing this. I just have to remind myself that I want someone in my life who is capable of loving me and being loved.
Grace-
Originally Posted By: Grace_O
I just want him to own it, by taking the responsibility to do what he wants done instead of me doing it.
I want my H to be able to accept his responsibility as well but maybe I am in a different situation since we do not have children together. I feel it is better for me to move on then spend more of my life waiting for something I may never get.
