She was fairly hostile towards me, said she was pissed at me that Im " getting my act together " NOW after her waiting for it for so long. I suppose that was to be expected. Validated her feelings about it, but bit my tongue on pointing out anything about it being a good thing for " us " or " better late then never" or anything similar.
Very good... "Yes WAW, I don't blame you for being pissed at me for just now getting my act together. It is something I should have done a long time ago."
Then shut up and drop it. That is all there is to validating. Agree with their stance, be sincere, then shut up.
Excellent job on biting your tongue. Mature men bite their tongue quite often with their wives and lovers. It is a wise move. Learn to bite your tongue without her knowing that is what you are doing and you will be moving into the big leagues.
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It almost sounds like she's regretting her decision and/or is pissed at me.
IF YOU LET HER GO you may very well find out that she is regretting the decision to MOVE IN WITH HER EX. Another reason to let her alone. Let them deal with the new reality, 7 month old baby that isn't his, him having to deal with wondering if she will go back to you, etc. etc. etc..
This is why you need to show confidence and just leave her alone and allow her to WONDER... Let her deal with the thoughts of "what did I just do, he is telling me how to raise my kid, he is smothering me, he is jealous of my ex that I lived with for fourteen years".. etc. etc etc..
Stay out of the picture and let it happen... Keep on getting a happy life. Let her SEE (not TELL HER) you getting a life.. When she brings up something you did in the past that hurt her or she hated.. just agree that she is right, you are wrong and shut up..
That is the ticket. KISS... Keep it simple. Don't make it complicated.
