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[Jayce]

WOW! Can't believe its been so long since I posted. Worked full time Feb thru Apr. covering boss's maternity leave. They put her & other FT girl on the payroll & we subs are now "independent contractors" with no gross up to make up for us having to pay the employer's portion of payroll taxes. About a $2 an hour pay cut! Not to mention we DO NOT fit the IRS definition of independent contractor. Will have to have a meet with the club CEO before I work again. I'm not givin' it away. (Never try to put one over on an HR pro - former or otherwise & definitely not the IRS).

We did several MC sessions which were helping some. Last one H left before we were done. We were talking about communication/intimacy & that I'd said I 'needed to get laid' after a long day (knowing a week night wouldn't fly-just sayin')He said absolutely nothing either then or next a.m. Dr. asked him why he didn't respond in some way. Pressed him, didn't accept "I don't know". So H got up and blew out the door. Later he told me he thought Dr. was going to tell him he's stupid.

That's evidently a hot button from when he was a kid. Or thru his whole childhood, all his years at home. Wonder who the culprit(s) was. Told him that's not what Dr. would have done.

Couldn't do MC appts. while I was on full time and H was on days covering vacations. We'll get back to it. I think he needs a lot of one-on-one to deal w/self-image & hang ups from his early years. Thinking that reading a book is to make him feel dumb...jeez. Not to learn something new so you don't have to feel dumb.....?

Meanwhile, we still do the 1x/wk or so - even during the week a couple times! 1 1/2 yrs of no nicotine has helped. He asked me last week if I like it when he comes home from work interested in ML. Um, how many times ya think I said I'd like if that happened?LOL. He's thinking more about sex in general it seems. Recent physical shows his back still a mess, but everything else seems to be OK or better. Still silent during ML. Still not -um- inventive, but does talk about it more, is more relaxed - kids a little. All in all, a huge turnaround from where we were a couple years ago. It just takes a lot of work & time. I know the MC helped. Kinda like a neutral referee - um - I meant facilitator.
Have a good summer, everyone. Let me know how you are doing.
Jayce