I wish I'd handled it in a validating way. But if wishes were fishes ....
I'm choosing to learn from it rather than beat myself up over it. Now I can see how invalidating my response was and should I get the opportunity again, I'll be ready.
I'm not going to push it either, I think that I also need to show my H unconditional love and no pressure. It's going to take time for him to truly feel the changes. I have no intention of pushing him away or rejecting him should he want to be intimate, but I won't pressure him either. This is not the time for me to get demanding. I intend to let him know I am attracted to him and open to intimacy without any pressure for action. As usual, I am walking a tightrope - I don't want to go backwards and have him feel rejected or undesirable - it was a major obstacle for us 12 or so years ago, and it did major damage to his self esteem.
Time and patience. Time is my friend ... patience is someone I am getting aquainted with
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
