I struggled with that feeling as well. Thanks Jack. I was thinking that friends are trying to see him not hurt - voila, they're telling him to leave me. OF COURSE OW is telling him that. He's being swayed, and I want to let him see that it's not the only option, but then I felt guilty for trying to convince (control) him towards me and our M... darn that old Catholic guilt. LOL. Not supposed to want to win at anything because that means someone else has to lose.
I really do feel so badly right now. He is hurting so much and I've come a long past my own hurt, and now see the pain in his eyes. It's strange because if you asked if I am in love with H, I'd say no. If you asked if I love him like I used to or somewhat like that - I'd still say no. I love him differently now. It's more like I see that he's so lost and truly alone (even though he's with OW - his "soul mate" and such) - he's guilty and in pain. I don't want him to hurt, I wish I could say something to make him stop hurting. That's not going to happen... he has to do it himself. I know now how parents feel watching their children fail and make wrong choices. You have to let them do it, and you know it intellectually but it still hurts to watch them go through it.
I found an old journal from the last time H cheated and I DB. I had put a few quotes on the front cover that I thought I'd post here. Just fun stuff.
"If you're going through hell, keep going." Winston Churchill
"I know God wouldn't give me anything I couldn't handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much." Mother Theresa
