OK QS, I don`t know if that`s the route to take here... BUT, I don`t live with her... the best visibility we get here is may be 25 - 30 %... This is why ultimately you need to make some key decisions on your own...
Maybe you going this route might shock her.. I really don`t know... I would keep putting those truth darts out there though...
When she calls them friends, you counter it with affair-partner, and even point out one of them was MARRIED
Or
Pursing other men while you are married is called cheating... you can call it a friendship or put icing or candles and whatever decorations you want on it, but its still Cheating
