Db not working, MLC spouse pushing D

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Thanks for your insight, Snodderly. I wasn't going to give them the site information, merely perhaps copy info about what the MLC is all about.

I do know what happened between his parents. My H was adopted and they brought up all by themselves that maybe he needs to find his birth parents since he doesn't want to be a part of his current family. That occured over Christmas, when the inlaws came to visit and there was big blow up. My MIL asked him outright "don't you want to be a part of this family?" and he said no. They left shortly thereafter in a dark cloud.

Also MIL had some mental issues (I also think deep depression, but no one really talks about it) when my H was a child to early teenager. He blames his mother for being horrible to him and his sister, and he blames his father for not 'protecting' him from his mother. He has told me a few stories, some I heard from other relatives but now its one of those topics that no one speaks of. He has told me he resents his parents for how he was treated, and his anger towards his mother is always very visible. I think these are major contributing factors.

So, do I mention to them MLC and unresolved childhood issues and then just let them connect the dots?