Oh goodness sakes - I'm supposed to be getting away from the A. garbage. Well, I just took my D. over to visit an old friend who has three lovely children of her own. Well, her family is basically the poster family for a happy family . . . you'd think.
Well, I ended up telling her about the sitch between my H and me - we are both invited to a wedding this coming weekend and I knew his absence would give me away. So, she decides it's a good idea to let me know that she has a friend that's "not just friends." And she proceeds to divulge all starts of garbage about how she just "clicks" with him in a way she doesn't click with her husband.
So, I just saw straight into the WAS psyche, and I don't like it. It's like she's completely letting herself off the hook for the potential damage to the kids - she's so pulled in by OM's attention. She said if she could avoid mess it would make with her inlaws and the mess it would make for her in our whole town, she would leave her H right now. And, she even confided that "I used to think that someone had to be unhappy in a R in order to have an A. But my H. is great to me. We just don't click the same way as I do with OM."
What it did affirm is that friendships with a member of the opposite sex are dangerous for married people - a month ago I roomed with her at a pre-wedding shendig for a mutual friend and she was using her friendship with her man-friend as an example of how my H's friendship might be harmless. Neither her friendship or my H's friendship are harmless - they're marriage wreckers!!!
I have to admit that this is rocking me quite a bit - it's making me think my sitch is hopeless and that the world is full of people who can't be trusted. What happened to honor, trust, and loyalty?!!
