Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

I am trying to rebuild and repair, not escape and hide like a coward...

She sees this and is completely disgusted with it. I am definitely not pursuing, but I do stand my ground on issues like this. "I did what I felt I had to do...". "I am sorry you feel that way" ect.


She still sees me as hovering over her, or spying on her. "I can't trust you" is a common phrase when she talks about what I did with her 2 guy friends. She is flailing about when it comes to that one guy. She is so desperate for his "guidance" through divorce. She also said "I am NOT going to lose another friend because of my husband". He is a high school friend, but now she sees him as the way to keep herself happy through this process.

Now let's hope that the same hold true for her as it does me: The more she pursues him the less he will want her.



I want to try something different: Since she sees me as so committed to this marriage and it disgusts her, I need to do a 180 and actually start to really let her go.

I was thinking of writing up a His/Hers list of who gets what if and when we divide assets. I just want it to be know what I want and what I am willing to give.

I HAVE to start the process, and I HAVE to accept that this is over.

And I am going to stand my ground on this house. I want the house instead of selling it. I will buy her out if I have to get 10 jobs to make it.

She is slowly making her bed just as I did. And she is going to have to lie in it too.