Right now your H seems to be doing something he enjoys, for himself, and you seem very resentful of that. Why?
It's true - I'm annoyed. If he were doing the hockey/skating thing and other stuff that actually addressed our situation or his passivity I'd be ok but it's hard to sit back and watch him exert energy on something that's pretty frivolous relative to what's happening in our M.
Perhaps that's wrong but it's how I feel right now. That said - I certainly DO NOT express that resentment to him. I'm all excited about his hockey and ask him questions - but I'm not being genuine.
I agree with the rest of what you wrote. Just not sure how this will all play out. I'm just not prepared to live the rest of my life or until my kids get older with a roommate and from where I sit every day that goes by that we are no longer intimate - the more distant that possibility becomes.
I'm sure I sound completely unenlightened and perhaps I am. I do have a WAS but one who wants to continue to live with me. I'm sure if we didn't have young kids he'd just leave and at times I think that would be better. I hope it's ok to express my random thoughts - productive or not on here - I figure better than to my H.
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M - 46 H - 47 T - 20 yrs M - 19 yrs DS 7yrs DS 6yrs DD 4 yrs Bomb - 4/3/10 My Sitch
