Standing, When DB'ing becomes unhealthy

[Jack_Three_Beans]

How long is too long?

Your call.

We aren't supposed to listen to friends and family when they tell us to move on after a few months, but we are supposed to move on after 4 years?

Why is one time scale better than the other?

As long as you as a person grow, this trip is a good one, is an LBS in denial if there are still standing after 6 years? or 2 years? Only if the LBS is stuck in the same person they were when they first got here.

"Why me? Poor me, there is nothing wrong with me!"

That LBSer is in denail...and even then I wouldn't want them moving on, because they'll likely be back here in another realtionship...well not here...because coming here didn't help them. : )

I guess I just have to jump in the rabbit hole with her, and hope I can pull her out before she gets permanently lost

You guess wrong and you hope wrong partner.

You can do Jack and Shite for them and I just left town, DO for YOU.

You CANNOT FIX her. You CANNOT SAVE her.

You can be there when this is over for her.

Her MLC ANY MLC is a timeline that is NOT set in stone, so to say 6 month 2 years 13 days or 8 years is arbitrary and wrong. A timeline is a great way to FAIL.

You give yourself as much time as you possibly can to standing, but NO ONE except yourself should tell you how long is too long. No one is an expert, and YOU have to live with YOUR choices, no one here.