Your H could give my H a run for his money as "BS Master".
I know it is terribly painful to hear these things. If this makes you feel any better NONE of what your H is saying is unique. It's lame and a way for them to blame shift so they can *try* and push aside the feelings of guilt or shame.
My H doesn't regret his affair either. He once said "I never wanted to hurt you" and my response was "ok, then what exactly where your intentions?". Funny he had no answer!
Clearly these long conversations are not productive as the two of you never got to discussing what needed to be discussed (finances and such) so avoid them if you can in the future.
I know it is maddening to hear this crap. Stay strong!
