Yup... that's what ee's doin... he's scared crapless, but he's DOING the WORK ANYWAY.. he's calling each time she challenges him... its a poker game EC... You need GUTS to win...
HE was terrified earlier too, but we worked with hiim and NOW look at him go! He's got his WIFE asking HIM for sex! lol
THAT is progress!
VERY VERY TRUE.. and he had the discipline to say no..... *sigh*.... lots of work ahead of me.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
Thanks, everybody, for the kind words. Much appreciated!
The old Eeyore would have given in when she asked to ML. Puppy and Allen warned me that after a fight, my W might try to "Tag" me to make sure I was still on the hook.
It took a few 2x4's, but I've learned to look for it and say no. Doesn't mean I don't want to, though...
Yep, and that's fine... and its ok for her to know that too, BUT... its important to wait for a while and NOT hurry the physical... MWD has a piece in the end of DR about that.. I don't have the boook with me here at work. but I know its in there.. she makes it VERY clear not to hurry back into a relationshipand the physical stuff.. she said that will TRASH the whole thing... hold off like yo're doin...
And EC did you see all the lame excuses and intimidation tactics his wife keeps throwing at the guy?
First his wife tells him she will NEVER forgive him and then she invites him to go to bed with her! lol.....
NOTICE he told her NO... repair the marriage first!
I just told SunnyD in newcomers that I now know that for my own piece of mind, any attempts by H to initiate intimacy are to be deemed suspicious right now. If the relationship is unstable, all it will be to him is sex, no matter what it feels like to you.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
EC, its just hypocricy.. if he doen'st want the marriage, that mean's he isn't "gettin any" either...
Also, i have seen several women on here who got an STD from having sex wtih their errant husband.. NOT a GOOD IDEA!
I know it seems counter-intuitive, and you will have to gauge this, but right now I would say NO to the idea of physical interaction...
Once he's on the fence mroe and a lot more confused.. like he's on his way back and is a bit confused.. THEN maybe... but not before he needs that one little nudge..
Right now your husband's head is a mess full of garbage from the addiction and the OW coaching him on how to destroy a marriage... His head is full of misinformation ...
Nope.. and haven't even thought about it.. hugging.. yeah that got me, but I will not think about ML with him while he's running off every other day to play boyfriend to OW. I have a feeling that if I were willing it would happen cause he's always been rather physical, but I'm not willing and need to remember not to be when he's in pursuasion mode... I do have to say since I've started trying to expose, that hasn't happened. I think he's clear that now I KNOW something is going on... I'm not in the least bit interested.. (at least that's the face I put on it... act as if )
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
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