"Truegritter, you are very new to this, I understand you wanting to stand and you should. I started this thread for opinions on how long is too long. There are people on here who have stood for 4 years and longer and no progress has been made. Not only do I think that is too long, standing at this point is futile. People at this stage are in total denial."
This experience of dealing with a wife in MLC is still very new to me. I struggle somewhat with the question of 'how long is too long?' Aside from a group dinner a year ago where they sat across from each other but did not speak, my wife and her EA partner live 12,000 miles away from each other and have not seen or been anywhere near each other for over 22 years! Yet, through internet and phone communications only, they have managed to convince each other that they are 'soul mates' - never mind reality, the fact we're still married, kids, his broken family, my severely bent but not yet broken family, and the list goes on...
What I struggle with and ask myself often is: If these two 'aliens' manged to convince themselves they've been waiting for each other for 22+ years, that their true love has endured for alllllllll this time based on pure, irrational fantasy, to me, it makes it much more difficult to convince myself that I should ever put a timeline on how I long I should stand for my wife. Never mind her irrational fantasy. Right now my wife still seems convinced. That alone tells me I should refrain from giving her ultimatums, deadlines, etc... She's not thinking in a straight line. She's thinking in circles, a continous loop. I guess that's something akin to what's called 'replay' here. I love my wife, and we have 2 children to raise. I guess I just have to jump in the rabbit hole with her, and hope I can pull her out before she gets permanently lost, or I lose myself in the process. Can't put a timeline on that I suppose...
