Elvencat look at Eeyore's thread.. just read his post today for his summary.. he can see how this is done... E is showing really well how to detach... he's doing a wonderful job and shows you how to do it right...
Give it a read
Read his most recent post and was impressed. I know I have a lot of self-doubt that I need to get rid of. I feel what I'm doing is working. I need to continue on and ignore his dire warnings and watch for actions, not words.
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread