BBJ, there are times when my kids are with their mom and I want to rush right over and rescue them. Those times when she's angry at them and won't talk to them. I hate that childish crap. But, I have to remind myself that she is responsible for her R with her kids. When they call to tell me about it I just empathize with how hard it must be and try to help them problem solve the situation. They need to learn that skill too. If I rush over and rescue them then ex learns nothing about her behaviour but what she does learn is that by having a temper tantrum Whatis will rush over and rescue her, like when we were married. Not anymore! It's hard but Dan has to figure out how to parent properly and be responsible for his R with his children. Help the kids problem solve if they complain about him e.g. how they can express their hurt when he talks to them angrily.
