Could really use some help/advise in my situation from some wise DB'ers. This is my story

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2014361#Post2014361

Me: FWH 35
Wife: BS/Love of My Life 31
Children: Son - 3yrs & One on the Way
DDay1 3/9/09 EA
DDay2 2/25/10 SPa w/same XOw