He's just humiliated and whining.. you DO realize he's gonig to whine when you expose him right?
he's going to lie and manipulate and make every excuse he can dream up as to why you should enable his destructive behaviour.. you GET that right?
You realise this is an addict you're dealing with right?
If he isn't willing to share it with the public like he would a romantic relationship then its WRONG and he needs to KNOCK it off...
Romantic relationships are done IN PUBLIC, they meet friends, meet family, get engaged, have weddings, invite friends over for dinner, etc...
This is because households and families are the building blocks of a community.. NOT invididuals sneaking around and lying... THAT does not build community... It DESTROYS it...
He's just trying to manipulate you...
You need to trust yourself and the procss here.. He's lying, you call him on it and expose it... If he's worth keeping he willl eventually OWN IT and REBUILD the marriage and repair the damage...
Keep up the exposure... If he's complaining and upset and you aren't, YOU are doing something RIGHT
