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[Lucky11too]

I think you completely nailed it above. Even if our H's don't want to be married to us right now, they don't want anyone else to have us either, so therefore won't let us go. I could exactly see H sabotaging any future R as you said above. It's easy to say that we just need to cut them off completely, but it's such a super tough position b/c we have our S's. I wouldn't change having S for the world, but it sure does make it tricky in dealing with H. I think you're doing the best possible given the situation. You try to give H the benefit of the doubt once in a while to recheck the temperature of the R, but ultimately, you are doing your own thing and living your own life. We have put so much into our H's for basically our whole lives, so it's hard not to try to nurture any hope.

So do you really think H is sick that often or is it only excuse? You're right, that he is "sick" all the time! If it's not just an excuse, then something has to be really wrong with him! I hope he looks into that more before it kills him.

Sounds like you have a lot of fun things going on. You are so lucky to get to spend the summer with S, so definitely enjoy it! I hope all goes well with your newphew today! =)