Husband being hateful and cruel. Is this a stage?

[AJM]

So, I am anxious to visit with them and see what they have to say about our new crisis and h avoiding me.

Uh oh. Hanging out with family won't be a pleasant thing in most cases. They can't do anything either. Nobody but your H can. Really.

I can tell you from experience that living with your spouse in the same house is no easier, having done both through this. Your spouse is the equivalent of a red rubber ball at this point. Everything bounces off of them and then ricochets all over the place. They actively try to hurt you. They say really mean and ugly things. In short, they try very hard to be 180 degrees out of phase with you. It tires them out, yet they continue to do so. It's part of the reason, in my opinion, why they try to distance themselves and yet don't let you go. The distance gives them rest. Hard to believe that one day they don't, and then the next they run as far away as they can. But it just is, right?

Saying all of that, how did your meeting with the family go?

AJ