My wife has been in the cycle of looking for someone else to be with while still having me there as her "friend". On May 18 I informed her that I could not be a part of her life while she was with someone else or looking for someone else. I would only be a part of her life if she wanted to be married to me. So I went dark.
Have had minimal contact with her since. Found out last Wednesday that she has a new boyfriend and introduced the kids to him. She served me with divorce papers on Friday.
I went to BIL's graduation open house on Saturday. Learned a great deal. S12 told her he's no longer going to her house and that he doesn't like the way she treats them. Had lengthy conversation with SIL and BIL. Everyone in her family sees that my wife is not the same person she used to be and is pissed at her for what she's doing. My wife has been with new boyfriend for 1 week. SIL says she was taken by surprise because my wife was talking about another guy she was "in love" with a week earlier. She is close to being evicted. There is much more but I don't have the time or space for it.
My wife's Grandpa was taken back to the hospital Saturday night. He was in and out of consciousness. My wife was going to leave the girls with her new boyfriend for the night. BIL called and left a not so nice voicemail saying there was no way she was leaving those girls with someone they didn't know. She called him back and says "Well if Grandpa dies, he dies. I'm already over it." and didn't go to the hospital. I found all this out yesterday. She asked me to take the girls yesterday so she could go to the hospital to be with Grandpa.
My wife goes farther off the deep end so I will be going for full custody of our kids. She is just not capable of being an effective and loving parent right now.
