Db not working, MLC spouse pushing D

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I can't believe that its been a few weeks since I've posted. Surprisingly, H's weekend jaunts have slowed down or stopped again. Several times when I expected him to leave, he actually stayed home. Guess its that crazy MLC again, can't figure out what he's going to do. Before he was all gung ho about packing, now that has tapered off again.

This past weekend he finally agreed to meet and talk with his parents about 'what is going on." They already had a pretty good idea just based on how he's been acting and avoiding them for the past 2 years. They apparently gave him holy h*ll for for the affair, and emphasized how dissapointed they are. But now that he's confessed it bothers me even more that he seems so relieved. I'm sure he was dreading having to tell them anything. Now that things are out in the open he acts like everything is all ok. Drives me crazy, much as I try to detach.

I haven't had a chance to talk with them separately, he didn't want me there to contradict anything he might tell them in his happy fantasy that 'we're all good." We saw them briefly yesterday and their simple question of 'how are you' sent me into tears, because I am just not OK. I managed to pull myself together and my MIL told me to stop by sometime to talk, but that hasn't happened yet.

How to explain MLC to someone when its all new information? GUess I will have to dig up and copy some posts in the archives for them.