I think every marriage is to one degree or another dysfuntional, that's what makes it functional! Do you know anyone who has complete open communication with their spouse? Do you know anyone who hasn't said to themselves "it's not that big a deal, I'll let it go?" I think it depends on the couple and what they are willing to accept from each other. If you have high school fantasy expectations of the other and what marriage should always be then you ain't gonna be happy! But, it you are someone who can accept that some things are the way they are and live on, you'll do better. Now, that doesn't mean not trying to change some things but I think it's often the attitude towards having to do so or the hard work involve that can make or break a R. And that's the way I see it
