And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[MHL]

I hate that when anything does happen, he follows up with 'I didn't intend to do that, sorry' ... he seems very conflicted. I've read several threads on here where the couple kept having an intimate relationship and it helped keep the connection, and I'm also getting lots of advice about not going there. Dunno, I really need to think about it I guess.
PEI

Hey PEI,
As of last night I have ventured into being intimate with my W and I always thought that I would not go there until we were more emotionally attached. I am quickly learning that none of this goes the way that you expect it to go.

How do you feel about it afterwards?? Do you feel that your H is experiencing guilt over being intimate with you? I got the same thing from my W this morning "I didn't intend for that to happen."

Maybe they think that we are going to attach some strings to being intimate with them. I have not sought out advice on this yet but I think you go with what works IMO. If it maintains a connection then I would say go with it as long as it is not hurting you.