Newbie: going to try Ghandi method

[elvencat]

But... maybe read up on listening and communication because he just gave you a clue about how you can improve yourself for yourself.

Best response: I am sorry you feel that I wasn't listening to you, but I am not going to dignify your infidelity while it is still going on by entertaining this discussion with you.

And this is exactly what made me realize how screwed up our communication with each other had become, TimeHeals. You are exactly right. He felt he wasn't getting validated and that I was trying to make him think and feel differently, and I thought he wasn't hearing what I had to say because he'd respond with silence. So.. yes, the next self-help book on my list is one on communication skills.

Sorry for hijacking the thread AntoniaB, but maybe this will help you, too.