Ooh let's see. So H and I have been doing MC consistently since January. All this time he says he hasn't gotten greencard yet. Then he says 2 weeks ago that we need to talk. He finally tells me he got the greencard about 2 months ago and didn't tell me cause I may "use" him for vacation. (scratches head, what?) Then he tells me in Dec a few weeks before he took me to the same place he took me dancing, (that fun night we had where he told me he wanted to start doing MC) and that he had gone there with a buddy of his and met two sisters and one of them was hitting on him hardcore and he took her back to his friend's house (along with the sis) and had sex with her 3x, giving me very graphic details about what they did, that she went down on him, how he regrets it, how it was stupid and he wants us to work things out. He also said the friend banged the sister. So they were all there. He swears he used a condom each time.
Then I told him I also hooked up with someone though it was making out and not nearly as XXX/graphic as his situation was. Said guy was a friend of mine and I've since told the guy I am doing MC with hub and I don't want anything complicated. I told H I regret this, that none of this should have ever happened, that if I could undo what he and I did, things would be better.
I told him he needs to get tested for STDs, since we have had sex together since his hook-up with this chick. I am disgusted he took me to the same place when I had so much fun with him there, dancing and he was being so romantic. I spent all day getting ready and buying new clothes and doing my hair at the salon for this outing with him. This was the same place he told me he wanted to start to do MC. And he was just there a few weeks prior and met her and took her back to his friend's house. I know I can't be that upset since I made out with someone, too but that makes me a hypocrite a little bit, right--being upset when I made out with someone? He cancelled our MC and told me he doesn't want the MCounselor knowing all this. Um, okaaay. Generally I'd tell him, let's go to MC still but I won't this time. I did tell him I felt that my opinion on the matter was unimportant since he made the decision unilaterally without me. Now he's saying how he wants to try everything to work on our marriage, that it's been almost 8 years, that he wants us to go on a vacation soon.
