keep thinking how this relates to my H telling me I'm pushing him away by speaking the truth about his actions. But at what point, does he begin to speak the truth, and I should listen? At what point do I need to realize I'm using a jack hammer to do a job that only requires a chisel?
If you have to live in a M where you must maintain a lie about your spouses actions, would you really want that M?
Look at it this way. If he doesn't want the truth known, then he shouldn't be doing what he is doing. It is not your job to keep secrets for him.
It's the cheaters, "Be good and keep my dirty secret, and if this doesn't work out, I will be back because I know if this happens again you will keep my affairs secret".
If that's how you want to live your life, fine.
I agree with that. I guess I'm still thinking in terms of "I don't want to lose him" rather than in terms of "this is what has to happen for me to want to be with him". If he can't handle the truth ('nother movie reference, I know ), then I need to find somebody who can. Right?
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), then I need to find somebody who can. Right?