keep thinking how this relates to my H telling me I'm pushing him away by speaking the truth about his actions. But at what point, does he begin to speak the truth, and I should listen? At what point do I need to realize I'm using a jack hammer to do a job that only requires a chisel?
If you have to live in a M where you must maintain a lie about your spouses actions, would you really want that M?
Look at it this way. If he doesn't want the truth known, then he shouldn't be doing what he is doing. It is not your job to keep secrets for him.
It's the cheaters, "Be good and keep my dirty secret, and if this doesn't work out, I will be back because I know if this happens again you will keep my affairs secret".
If that's how you want to live your life, fine.
Now, I do not think exposure should be done out of spite or retribution. I think you should decide who it's safe to expose these things to. The point is not to lash out or hurt your spouse. The point is to get the truth out to folks who can support you and who might support your M by opposing the affair.
Last edited by TimeHeals; 06/14/1011:45 AM.
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