Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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She is also asking friends to contact the FB guy, and see why he won't talk to her. To her I am the "psycho" husband now, and she feels like I am constantly watching her. I want "to keep her to myself" as she says.

Yawn--seriously text book. You are psycho for confronting and exposing... what? The truth. Man, how will you ever forgive yourself? You must be so ashamed you told the TRUTH.

she wants to run as far away from this "crazy" guy. So I am trying to alleviate that with my DB. I need to change myself in order to change the way she sees me.

Who is stopping her from leaving? You have her chained up in the basement or something? Ask her to leave.

You need to do the 180s and detach for YOU, not because it will change how she sees you. She is off in affair land, and you have exposed her nasty little secret, so you have stood up to her, so she has no idea what you are capable of right now-she thought she could bully you into total submission, but you suprised her.

Now ask her to leave. You cannot continue to tollerate her contacting or even trying to contact OM while she is in the same home, and if she doesn't want to work on the M, then she needs to go.

Your M may fail, but at least you will have self-respect and a little dignity. You aren't going to have those things or a M if you let her keep doing what she is doing right under your nose.


That's just my 2 cents. I am ready to throw in the towel for you.