Now, on to something I really do not know how to determine and would like some help with.
H and I had another talk last night about his choices and destroying our family. I'm afraid I made it too much about family vs. OW, but when I realized it, I tried to move away from that and stick to what we could do together to rebuild and save the family vs. destroying the family. I can see H's speech becoming more and more open instead of absolute no.. but I'm afraid I'm pushing too hard and I'm taking one step forward and 10 back.
Here's my question, but bare with me, I'm going to make an obscure movie reference to get my point across.
I was thinking about a fav movie of mine called Labyrinth. Great 80s flick if you've never seen it.. but this girl named Sarah has to navigate a wonderous labyrinth that seems to change constantly on her. Nothing is what it appears to be. In one scene, a character from the labyrinth named Hoggle is helping her through the underground tunnels. The rocks begin to talk and say "go back, this is not the way, this way leads to certain doom." Hoggle says "pay no attention, they are there to mislead anyone on the right path."
I keep thinking how this relates to my H telling me I'm pushing him away by speaking the truth about his actions. But at what point, does he begin to speak the truth, and I should listen? At what point do I need to realize I'm using a jack hammer to do a job that only requires a chisel?
Me 32, H 34, DD 3 M 6, T 8 Bomb 03/10 OW Bomb 6/5/10 Separate & NC 6/28/10 My 2nd EA Thread
