Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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Well, like the Crystal Method, I have to Keep Hope Alive.

I didn't get a chance to watch the video with her parents, but I gave it to them.

I found out her and her mom had a talk, and apparently her parents are standing by her. BUT ONLY in the context of "if you are that unhappy, what else can you do?" They did tell her I have been talking to them. If her parents are truly behind her and WANT her to leave me, I might be done for.

She is also asking friends to contact the FB guy, and see why he won't talk to her. To her I am the "psycho" husband now, and she feels like I am constantly watching her. I want "to keep her to myself" as she says.

Boy, I guess guilt does that? I KNOW she is scared and hurting. She is scared of the unknown after divorce, and she is hurt that the marriage turned out like this. But right now she wants to run as far away from me as possible.

All she sees is that I can't accept the divorce, and she repeats that like it is her life Mantra. It makes her see me as this wacko husband who can't accept the inevitable, and she thinks that is totally pathetic.

So basically, she wants to run as far away from this "crazy" guy. So I am trying to alleviate that with my DB. I need to change myself in order to change the way she sees me.

Any suggestions on how to do that? She is so paranoid I am spying, and that is all she thinks about when she thinks of me. She can't "trust" me.

I am practicing "detachment", but she has a hard time of letting things go, so I think she will feel this way for a while.

I am wondering what I need to do to diffuse this situation. She is starting to see my detachment so variably. I don't really speak to her, which she sees as me being "mad" at the divorce. When I do talk to her, I am calm and totally unemotional. She sees this as "flipping", and it is driving her crazy.