Nothing fits

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Mish, I'm sorry to hear all of that and also, how Gabe handled it (insensitively).

I agree with the others, he surely didnt know there was a risk she would pop by else he wouldnt have asked you to. The fact he kept chatting to the other guy shows he didnt talk to her for long (or you!).

When I saw Helen for the first time after we got back together, I was VERY upset. BF stopped kissing and hugging me once we knew she was there as he "didnt want to rub her face in it". I was very hurt and felt betrayed all over again. When we next saw her, he was on edge, but less concerned about her feelings. These WAS have alot to get past as well, its not just us.

Its natural that Gabe would be probably as mixed up and stressed about this as you were. As OT likes to say, he has feelings too! I can see it must have made him feel like a big *ss. He gets a painful reminder of the mistake he made and the bitter R with this woman and then your hurt and pain and guilt and.. well, typical Gabe, he stayed out all night.

I think its totally unacceptable for him to be back in your house, with you, sleeping with you and then to re-befriend her on FB. Crass, insensitive and unnacceptable. Mish, I have really no clue what you can do about it, other than be honest if you can in a calm, strong way? Gabe, I can't live with you, ML and be ok about you being friends on FB with the woman you had a 3 year A with... If he refuses to defriend her, I guess you have a choice and can ask him to move out ?? Or ask for his password to FB if he wants to stay friends, but to prove to you that there is nothing to hide ??

On the plus side, it wasnt about him seeing the broom (as you assunmed), he was honest and told you "I asked him to come home and talk to me but he said he couldn't handle the tension and wasn't coming back until late if at all." So it was about your emotions and him not being able to handle you putting them on him, for whatever reason.
Hugs xx