To everyone's mind its just a scandalous activity that everyone's tryign to cover up or pretend isn't happening...
To my mind that's NOT an exposed affair... It's a suppressed one...
Just understand the exposure that's been done so far to my mind wasn't the most effective route...
I agree. I created a scandal and earned the contempt of WH and OW. They've lied to cover their tracks and pinned the crazy/jealous/loser wife badge on me, then kept me away from their colleagues to suppress my part of the story. It's easy to put the blame on someone who's not there to defend herself.
In hindsight, if I had to do it all over again, I would have taken the invoices and the call logs to the dept chair myself soon after I'd discovered it and tried to nip it in the bud then. I was just so hurt and embarrassed then that I kept my mouth shut, which enabled A to continue in secrecy.
Have call 6 of 8 with Larry tomorrow and have LOTS of questions since I haven't talked to him in nearly two weeks. I continue to distance myself from WH, have limited the time we spend together, and have kept all exchanges light and pleasant.
Continue to see positive changes. WH went to work around 7:30 p and was back around 10:30, same as last night. Since Sunday night has been "their" night at work together for over a year (no one else around), WH would always stay until midnight or later. That he isn't tells me she isn't there with him.
Some of his behaviors continue to annoy however, particularly his sudden Nazi-style micro-management of the finances. He refused to buy DD 12 a "good job" gift for getting 1st Honors on her report card (even though we always have in years past), and he stayed home from the girls' dance recital today with DS 7 because he didn't want to spend $15 on tickets. The girls were hurt and appalled. He said, "tough!"
So...no summer camp, no movies, no eating out, no recital tickets -- I'm supposed to sit home with the kids ALL summer, doing nothing and going nowhere while he works, travels, has dinners out with colleagues, etc. If he's trying to run me off with his sudden penuriousness, he may very well succeed...(venting).
