IDU, sorry the MC process has been disappointing . That's not really "giving it a try" on your W's part.
Congrats on getting into the band! I love that you're involved your children in your music. No one can take away the great person that you are, especially as a father.
I think that reclaiming the marital bed is a good idea. Stand your ground...it commands respect. I love it when the vets recommend that men say "I've decided...". There's no down side to asserting yourself in a dignified way.
(((hugs)))
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.