Cause for alarm?

[OfficerInNeed]

I am listening to more of what W is saying. I also try to look into W's actions as well.

She is more into fixing the house up then she ever was throughout our entire sitch. Three months ago W was sleeping in the bed set that she recommended to throw out today.

Two months ago if W made a suggestion on how the interior design of the house can be improved or something she would like to get for the house and I would attempt to discuss further W would instantly shut me out and say "It's up to you because I am leaving" NOW W and I can talk about these things and actually have a productive conversation AS IF she really is interested.

When we first moved into our home we had big plans for the rooms in the house and then when the sitch began W forgot everything we had ever planned on, Today W had those plans again and talked about them.

There are so many things today that W was not doing/saying 2 months ago. Based on these actions, in my W's own kind of way is she telling me she is staying?

I agree with everyone here, even though we do not argue like we have in the past and I am not the same person who would talk down to my W that brought us to this sitch, I AGREE that our communication is NOT healthy. I am so tempted to sit down with her and just get it out in the open "If you and I are going to carry on any type of R I want to ensure it is as healthy as possible and it all starts with communication..." I don't know.

I know we are still in the early stages of our sitch and it is at her pace I just don't want to develop bad habits that can not be broke and ultimately lead us right back down this road. I also don't want W to think this is the best it can get. We could be so much better is we could just communicate better.