Just found out she already filed

[alice444]

sounds like you had a great day! I don't know how I'll handle the "I want Daddy" thing- that sounds so hard. But as you know, they turn on a dime, crying one minute, laughing the next... Seems like you're also finding creative, fun things to do with her that are inexpensive or free. That's the great thing about kids, even though we want to buy and show them everything, at this age they just want to be with you having fun no matter where it is. We go to the pet store a lot just to look at the animals, don't even buy anything.

Thanks guys!
Well today I went to pick DD up and she seemed upset as soon as I got there DD went and hid (was kinda funny initially) that ticked her off I think and she was like So...I still don't know how I'm going to respond. I could stick with my response above (without the duh!) or I could tell her I'll talk to the attorney but what if the attorney says it's fine to split. I'd much rather do it all in one shot so that everything gets decided at once. Suggestions?

Here's the beauty of where you are now: YOU decide how you'll proceed, you are no longer at her mercy for every little thing. She's already taken you to the cleaners financially- she will likely have more spending money each month than you for awhile (sorry- and I know, I'll be in your same boat). It doesn't matter what the L says or thinks, either- unless he's giving you *legal* advice. I think the idea of an inventory, even if you don't care about every little thing (actually, especially if you don't, keep reading), is great. First of all you may have overlooked something or not even considered it up for grabs. Second, if you "let her have" a lot of stuff you could care less about, then when she fights on something you do want, you say "look, I've been more than reasonable- look at all the things I gave you willingly. THIS thing is important to me and I am keeping it". And if you don't want this to drag on for months, be thorough now and list it all. I mean, she's been living apart from you for awhile now, right? She should have a lot of her own stuff. And there's always Craigslist- I've seen couches on there for $25 if she needs one! Only half kidding. Unfortunately, that will probably be all I can afford by the time I'm through. Why should YOU have to buy new furniture just because she chose to be lazy and not take it with her before but left it for you to "store" til she was ready for it? You're not Bob's Furniture Store- she doesn't get to shop you whenever she feels like it!

My 2 cents