I get home from out with my buddies, she is home and packing.
We both go upstairs, and I HAVE to talk to her about home repairs, because it involves a good bit of money.
I SIMPLY TELL HER what needs to be done, who I got the estimate with, and what is next. She asks about another repair, and I answer. I also mention just CASUALLY I saw a chipmunk and snake when I was clearing, because I don't want to destroy a chipmunk nest while I clear the side of our yard.
She then starts talking about this woodchuck she saw down the street, and goes on and on in this excited voice, smiling, laughing ect. It was like a COMPLETELY different person.
I stay completely CALM, and then later ask her if it is OK if we donate some $$$ by buying bracelets for a friend of mine who has cancer.
She THEN starts to get uppity, and talk about how I used to not be interested in things like that when SHE wanted to do them.
I IMMEDIATELY ceased the conversation with "Fair enough", and walked away. I validated her point of view, and then ended the interaction on MY terms.
I have been GAL-ing and implementing my 180s, and it seemed like her guard was down for just a few min when I was talking about what HAD to be done next, and how it needed to get done.
Did I do OK with this?
Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
