Yup... You will NEVER have enough evidence to get an addict to accept their cheating if they don't want to.. video footage of them having sex he's just goign to say something like "I was just trying to keep her warm, she forgot her clothes at her apartment" or something silly like that...
1. You state the facts : I KNOW you are cheating and so do YOU 2. You ask them to stop 3. You invite them to work on their marriage like an adult 4. You inform them how much infidelity hurts you and your children
You walk away.. he's just going to be putting up walls... Do NOT wait for him to agree, do NOT argue with is excuses, do not try to negotiate.. you state the facts above and you EXIT the conversation.. if he presses you again later, you turn around, state the facts AGAIN and walk AWAY
if he does NOT ACT in a manner to STOP after the confrontation above you act to show him teh consequences
1. Exposure 2. Shut down all household support for the infidelity 3. Bring in a third party to take on his household support 4. Refuse to contact him until he ends his affair 5. Expose further and deeper 6. Lock up all the household finances to ensure they are NOT used to support infidelity
Keep collecting INTEL during this time as well.. if you can
