Sorry to correct you here onthemountaintop, but I am referencing experts on infidelity and their advice... You clearly aren't... you aren't even READING the thread fully before you post your advice... I AM

So don't try to paint this as equal footing... post CAREFULLY and READ before you POST...

I may not be an expert, but at least I am offering the advice that an expert would offer under the circumstances of the last 21 pages...

I am not asking you to help, I am asking you to NOT DO HARM...

You advising someone BLINDLY to go up to their spouse who just FILED for DIVORCE with GLEE on their face and attempt to LICK their EAR is terribly WRECKLESS with someone ELSE's marriage...

Withold comment until you are caught up please... you are just going to risk doing DAMAGE