I feel like i need to contact WAW

[techguy]

knight...sorry for the 2x4...

Just my opinion, but I think you are making an extreamly serious error in pursing joint custody.

First, joint custody requires the most interaction between the parents. Kids are going back and forth every week, even durign the school year. Trust me, it only works when you can have a civil relationship with WAW. You are soooo far away from that I can't even imagine it.

Generally speaking, courts won't award joint custody on their own. They pretty much always award full custody to one parent for this very reason. The only way joint happens is if the parent settle ahead of time. (Pre-court).

Second, your wife is crazy. The fact that you are willing to contemplate letting your kids spend 50% of their life with her honestly makes me wonder about <your> parenting skills.

Third, you have all the cards here. You know for a fact that she can't afford to have a custody battle. Nor does she have the emotional stability to make it through one.

I think the only reason you are looking for shared is that you hope 'throwing your wife a bone' would get her to like you and come back. That sir, is very, very wrong. You need to do what is right for your kids,without regards to whether your wife will like it or not.