I just realized you have a second thread and I posted to the older one...so here's my 2c if it helps
How about this Quick:
1. Get yourself looking your hottest 2. Whisper in her ear how you want to do A..B..C.. and record it 3. Lick her ear...tell her you'll be waiting for her to make the next move 4. Wait.
If she comes to you, she really wanted you in the first place. Have the best mindblowing sex you can.
Then, tell her you want her to end her online chats so the two of you can heat up your house (don't call them affairs because she probably doesn't see it as such).
Buy acting this way, your wife knows you won't live the next 20 years in blame. She knows you want to meet her needs in new ways. She knows she can tell you anything.
That is the sex 180.
Why do I suggest this approach? I've had probs with internet porn myself, and was referred as addicted to it. I've been careful to not get into chats, but I know how powerful it could've been if I did. The last thing you/she needs is to make this an attack just now.
If she doesn't respond. If she doesn't take any steps, maybe it is time for a sex counsellor.
Why treat the symptom (her usage) instead of the disease (something in her, not you, that is controlling your relationship right now...plus the devil!)
